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The "Newbie Pack"


Negotiation Questionnaire
by LadyScream

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Part One: General Questions and Information

A. What is your level of experience?
  1. Very experienced
  2. Experienced
  3. Limited experience
  4. Beginner
B. How long have you had or known of your interests?
  1. As long as I can remember
  2. 5 years or more
  3. 1 to 4 years
  4. Less than 1 year
C. What is your sexual orientation?
  1. Heterosexual exclusively
  2. Bisexual
  3. Homosexual
  4. BiCurious
D. What kind of relationship do you prefer?
  1. Long term, live in
  2. Offline, meeting often
  3. Offline, meeting occasionally
  4. Online only
  5. Not sure yet
E. Main interest
  1. Sensual and physical
  2. Psychosexual and mental
  3. Both equally
F. Are you... (rate each from 1=lowest to 10=highest)

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______  
______  
______  
 Sadistic
 Masochistic
 Dominant
 Submissive


G. Your level of interest in bondage:
  1. Total helplessness
  2. Light bondage
  3. Not my favorite thing
  4. Outside my limits
  5. Never tried it
H. Pain (what you are, or what you're looking for)
  1. Pain slut
  2. Whipping, caning, paddling
  3. Light paddling, sensual whipping, no marks
  4. Punishment only when necessary
  5. Interested, but never tried it
  6. WAY beyond limits
I. What do you believe the purpose of pain in a session is?
  1. Pain is a reward
  2. Pain is a punishment
  3. For training or correction only
  4. Whatever pleases my partner
  5. Not sure
J. Sex in a scene, for me is...
  1. An absolute must
  2. Expected, unless punishment is taking place
  3. An enhancement
  4. Not necessary or expected
  5. Out of the question
K. Which settings are you comfortable playing in?
  1. Public play
  2. Scene parties
  3. Intimate groups of 1 to 3 other couples
  4. Three way play
  5. One on one
L. Who can know of your activities?
  1. No one
  2. A very few trusted friends
  3. Other scene people
  4. Doesn't matter who knows

Part Two: Interests, Preferences, and Limits

M. Role Playing. Listed below are several examples of roles to be played by either Dom/me or sub. List those which you are interested in, and those you'd like to see your partner play.

Amazon
Baby
Barbarian
Bitch-Goddess
Boss
Burglar
Child
Clergy
Cowboy
Cowgirl
Daddy
Doctor
Evil Priest
Evil Priestess
Femme Fatale
French Maid
God
Goddess
Hooker
Indian
Inquisitor
Interrogator
Hero
Kidnap Victim
Knight
Leather Man
Master
Mentor
Mistress
Mommy
Nun
Nurse
Rapist
Role Reversal
Pet
Pimp
Pirate
Policeman
Ponyboy
Ponygirl
POW
Prince
Princess
Principal
Puppy
Savage
Secretary
Sex Object
Sissy
Slave
Slave Owner
Slut
Student
Suspect
Teacher
Teen
Torturer
Victim
Warrior
Wild Beast
 
Roles I would like to play:
____________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________
 
Roles I would like my partner to play:
____________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________

 
N. List any specific fetishes you have (i.e. foot worship, body types):
____________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________

O. List any medical, physical or emotional concerns (past breaks, sprains, chronic conditions or phobias):
____________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________

P. List your limits here:
____________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________

Q. List your concerns about the depth and exclusivity of a relationship:
____________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________

R. List your preferred method of birth control and avoidance of STD's:
____________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________


S. Below are listed several D/s activities. Please rate each of these from 1 to 6:

1 = YES!!!
2 = Mmmm, I like this
3 = Doesn't excite me, but I'd do it for my partner
4 = Intriguing, but scary
5 = Embarrassed to admit I want this
6 = Absolutely not!!

1 ______  
Spanking, by Hand
69 ______  
Hot Wax
2 ______  
Leather Paddle
70 ______  
Fire and Ice
3 ______  
Wooden Paddle
71 ______  
Needles
4 ______  
Belt or Strap
72 ______  
Cutting
5 ______  
Switch
73 ______  
Abrasions
6 ______  
Deerskin Cat o'nine
74 ______  
Electric Torture
7 ______  
Leather Cat o'nine
75 ______  
Digital Sex
8 ______  
Braided Cat o'nine
76 ______  
Directed Masturbation
9 ______  
Knotted Whip
77 ______  
Vaginal Sex
10 ______  
Rubber Whip
78 ______  
Oral Sex
11 ______  
Single Lash
79 ______  
Vibrators/Dildoes
12 ______  
Cane
80 ______  
Strap-ons
13 ______  
Fiberglass/Plastic Rod
81 ______  
Anal Sex
14 ______  
Riding Crop
82 ______  
Anal Plugs
15 ______  
Fur-lined Paddle
83 ______  
Multiple Penetrations
16 ______  
Mental Bondage
84 ______  
Anilingus
17 ______  
Silk Scarves
85 ______  
Vaginal Fisting
18 ______  
Nylon Rope
86 ______  
Anal Fisting
19 ______  
Cotton Rope
87 ______  
Fantasy Rape
20 ______  
Chains
88 ______  
Directed Bisexuality
21 ______  
Leather Bonds
89 ______  
Threesomes
22 ______  
Spandex Bonds
90 ______  
Groups
23 ______  
Plastic Wrap
91 ______  
Foot Kissing
24 ______  
Body Bags
92 ______  
Kneeling
25 ______  
Steel Shackles
93 ______  
Crawling
26 ______  
Arm Sleeves
94 ______  
Lead on Leash
27 ______  
Straightjackets
95 ______  
Dirty Words
28 ______  
Breast Bondage
96 ______  
Verbal Abuse
29 ______  
Genital Bondage
97 ______  
Public Embarrassment
30 ______  
Gags
98 ______  
Face Slapping
31 ______  
Leather Cuffs
99 ______  
Cross Dressing
32 ______  
Infibulation
100 ______  
Secret Sex in Public
33 ______  
Spreader Bars
101 ______  
Public Display
34 ______  
Ceiling/Wall Hooks
102 ______  
Public Sex
35 ______  
Cages
103 ______  
Public Whipping
36 ______  
Slings/Swings
104 ______  
Infantilism
37 ______  
Stocks
105 ______  
Golden Showers
38 ______  
Crosses
106 ______  
Enemas
39 ______  
Pillory
107 ______  
Innocent Dress
40 ______  
Suspention, on Toes
108 ______  
Slutty Dress
41 ______  
Suspension, Full
109 ______  
Prim and Proper
42 ______  
Outdoor Setting
110 ______  
Ultra-Feminine
43 ______  
Indoor Setting
111 ______  
French Maid
44 ______  
Public Setting
112 ______  
Child/Baby Roles
45 ______  
Semi-Public Setting
113 ______  
Slave
46 ______  
Private Setting
114 ______  
Macho
47 ______  
1 to 3 Hours
115 ______  
Biker
48 ______  
3 to 6 Hours
116 ______  
Leathers
49 ______  
Overnight Duration
117 ______  
Spandex
50 ______  
Blindfolds
118 ______  
Rubber/Latex
51 ______  
Hoods
119 ______  
Masks/Hoods
52 ______  
Headphones/Earplugs
120 ______  
Costumes
53 ______  
Tickling
121 ______  
Lingerie
54 ______  
Feathers/Fur
122 ______  
Garters/Stockings
55 ______  
Sexual Teasing
124 ______  
Corsets/Cinches
56 ______  
Sexual Denial
124 ______  
Boots
57 ______  
Chastity Belt
125 ______  
High Heels
58 ______  
Pinching
126 ______  
Tattooing
59 ______  
Hair Pulling
127 ______  
Body Piercing
60 ______  
Nipple Clamps/Clips
128 ______  
Branding
61 ______  
Clothespins
129 ______  
Maid Service
62 ______  
Genital Torture
130 ______  
Shaving
63 ______  
Weights
131 ______  
Humiliation
64 ______  
Cock Rings
132 ______  
Foot Worship
65 ______  
Ball Spreaders
133 ______  
Exhibitionish
66 ______  
Water Torture
134 ______  
Voyeurism
67 ______  
Ice
135 ______  
Voyeurism
68 ______  
Oils, Lotions, Spices
 


T. Listed below are 6 parts of the body and 3 categories. Using the following letter codes, rate each as what is acceptable to you:

N = Never
L = Light
? = Not Sure
T = Thuddy
M = Medium
 
S = Stingy
H = Heavy
 

Body Part
Bondage
Corporal
Torture
Back/Shoulders
______
______
______
Bottom/Thighs
______
______
______
Breasts/Chest
______
______
______
Genitals
______
______
______
Feet/Ankles
______
______
______
Wrists
______
______
______


These files are presented for general information only and are not meant to be a "how-to" guide.
As with anything, what works for someone else may or may not work for you.
Use common sense when exploring new relationships of any type.



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